The One

I may have finally met my 'role model'.  I think, I'm still conducting a feasibilty study. It's so difficult to squash everything I consider great into one person.  Poor soul, the pressure.  Anyway, I met a woman, Hahaha.  That's what it has come to. No I'm kidding. But seriously, I did. I met her last December in Durban.  Our encounter was a very brief one, we barely touched.  She gave me one of those hugs where she may as well shouldn't have.  But we hugged, nontheless.  We met through a mutual, uh, I'll say friend, but not quite.  Anyway yes, we have a mutual friend. A very nice man.

So as the universe would have it, I met her again last week.  In Johannesburg this time, and in a setting more permanent, so I get to study her almost every day.  It's a lovely experience.  Each day passes and I check a box.  I think she is The One.

She is a feisty woman. Small.  Black.  Smart. The wit, oh my goodness.  No, she's not me.  but she may as well be. :)  She makes stalking such a science, I can't find any details on her.  it's always the interesting ones that don't flash their lives across social media.  Because she does not have social dependence syndrome.

I like listening to her engage with other people, she sticks out terribly well.  It's easy to notice when she isn't around.  She is excellent in what she does, I imagine.  (And we do the same thing.) She doesn't know it yet but I've made myself her mentee.  She drives a powerful car.  I'm in love.  She's so different.

I like how she went from complete stranger, to "Oh she's cool" in Durban, to "Marry me?" in Joburg.  The universe is a great place.  I'm so glad I've got such access to her.  She's the type of person I could stomach strong, gross coffee for, and just listen to her opinion on EVERYTHING.

I wanna know what she thinks about marriage and kids.  And engineering.  I wanna know if she's on a strange diet of sorts.  I wanna know her take on politics, and abortion, and e-tolls.  I wanna know what kind of guys she thinks are her type.  I want to know so much about her.  I just want a disgusting amount of Girl Talk to happen between the two of us.

Last week she told me that in our field of work, there are many old, big, white men (and I'm young, small and black).  She told me it is important to set the tone immediately, and not be walked on.  She told me to draw a clear line and know my worth.  Okay she didn't say the last part but it's what I gathered at the end of the conversation.

Today I spoke to her and she told me she only speaks three languages but she's trying to learn a few more.  And I got her age.  Besties much?

What a lovely life.

:)

Ntsa