By "I" I mean you, because I have life under control. *pops pill*
Well. It depends,
really. There is a wide range of psychoanalyses that you can undertake before deciding whether or not to text him,
especially if it's to text him first. Because it does warrant a psychoanalysis in some instances. The
answer is very easily yes, and just as easily NO… depending on who you ask, what their take on life is and what they’ve had happen to them in the past six months.
Should you text him (first)?
Doubt normally means don’t, so no, don’t text him. Besides, he could be out having fun, and
worst of all, with somebody else (a girl, I mean. Or a boy, just to throw a spanner in the works). The reason you're afraid to text him first is because he probably isn’t your
boyfriend. I hope we aren’t afraid of
texting our own boyfriends, please Jesus. So no, don’t text him if you're afraid of not getting a response, because he
really can do with your message whatever in the world he pleases. He could roll his eyes at it, or wonder what it is you actually want from him, or delete it and return to his beer and
FIFA. He could take a screen shot and
send it to the boys’ chat group, where a lengthy seminar will take place on how you just can't leave him alone (guh, I know you want thiii diii!), and how that, in some way I cannot quite
understand, makes him the man.
Or you could honestly just text him, and be unapologetic
about it. You can allow yourself to be
yourself and just get your life, boo-boo.
You can neglect all the unwritten rules and make up a list of your
own. You can text and not feel like you're going to ingest Jeyes fluid should you not get a response. You can text because your life does not
depend on a response, I promise. Plus, your mind could do with the peace. You can text him first because you know
yourself, and your worth and all those other things we claim to know about ourselves
yet we know very little. You can text
him first because you know in your heart that that doesn’t make you less of an anything, instead it almost makes you brave, relatively.
You can text him first if you have something to say, in the
exact same way you do when you text other people in your life. And he will reply to your text in the same
way he replies to the people in his life. Or not. But how will you know if you don't?
Should you text him first?
Not if your esteem relies on it, please.
Not if a non-reply reply is going to send you on a binge tonight, and
not if you're going to collect all your girls for a conference call on why he didn’t
reply when they'd rather be watching Scandal (both the US and SA versions). There are many reasons, but you don’t
have to get your panties in a knot about it.
He just didn’t reply and you will be fine.
But he could reply, and invite you over for some coffee, or whatever your equivalent is.
Its really out of your control- what happens afterwards. but that applies to many things in life- so that's hardly news. I don’t really know if you should do it or not.
Do whatever the hell you want- life is hard enough without us being hard on ourselves.
I really, really need to dance.
Listen to Banks- Brain.
Bye!
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